How I Found My Place in the World When I Felt Beaten Down by Life

I felt left behind and declined not just by tasks, however by life in basic. The injures and betrayals were leading me to lose my passion and interest. Then there were the callous remarks from pals, people in the local community, when I asked if they knew of a position, former teachers who could not help in any way now that I d graduated, college career center consultants, and even extended member of the family.

As the rejections stacked up, buddies that I had actually known for years began leaving. They moved on with their lives, kids, marital relationships, and professions.

“Some people are going to reject you simply because you shine too intense for them. ~ Mandy Hale

After starting as a secondary high school English instructor and ending up being dissatisfied with the continuous modifications in the general public school system, I went to graduate school for law. I thought it would open a great deal of possibilities, but it did not.

Here are the four things that assisted me to lastly “decline” the non-acceptance and rejection that I was experiencing from others.

It took time, but I finally pertained to the realization that those who were constantly declining me werent the ones who actually mattered. I would keep shining vibrantly with or without them.

I thought of the profession that I wanted to have, where I intended to live, and the important things that I wanted to achieve.

After I completed school, I was excited about progressing with life.

Life had something different in store for me. I ended up being turned down endlessly, well over a thousand times for every single application that I sent out over a duration of years.

I never ever had any dream of being an attorney in a courtroom. Instead, I always wished to work in Europe or South America with individuals from various cultures, nationalities, and backgrounds. I wished to make a positive distinction in a humanitarian method by working with individuals personally to carry out modification and enhance their lives.

1. Recognize that “there is no box.”

Our background, degrees, good friends, teachers, households, and the larger culture as a whole try to get us to adhere to a narrow set of specifications. If you went to school to be a teacher, you need to be a teacher. You have to be an automobile mechanic if you studied to be an automobile mechanic. And you have to reside in this location or this country, because thats where your family have constantly lived.

Someone as soon as told me, “there is no box.” Society tries to “box” us in and to limit us to defining ourselves within particular narrow limits. I realized that there truly is “no box,” and that I might use my abilities and skills in other ways and in other locations.

I didnt need to comply with where I was or seek the approval of those who were currently around me.

I began meeting brand-new people and looking at other places and nations, and I stopped trying to seek the approval of those who had currently chosen that they werent going to accept me for who I was. The companies, organizations, and companies told me I was” overqualified” or that there were “many qualified candidates” and I hadnt been thought about, or they d keep my resume on file.

It was as though no matter what I accomplished and no matter how difficult I worked, it was never “the right capability” or “enough” for the particular place or individual that I was submitting to.

In a manner, I pertained to accept their rejection, because I understood that the response was leaving my box and understanding that somebody else would be more than pleased to accept me for who I was.

2. Release the requirement for approval by others.

Releasing the requirement for approval opens up exciting brand-new doors. We are finally complimentary to be who we truly are.

I desired to live up to the expectations of family and society. I think thats why it harmed a lot to get so many rejections over such a long duration of time. I wished to be “successful” according to societys expectations. I wished to follow the course of what everyone informed me was a “routine” and “safe” life.

Everything changed for me when I chose to live my life on my terms now instead of trying to find a company, agency, government institution, or some other entity to offer me with the possibility or chance. I wasnt going to wait for approval from somebody or something else.

I can use the abilities that Ive obtained to be an international resident and to learn and grow every day without restricting myself to the parameters of one place, country, or culture. I can be an amalgamation of all of them, as I continue to grow as a person, both personally and professionally, however on my own terms, not those that are determined to be by somebody or something else.

I can teach, and I can work to help others, but it doesnt have to be within the rigid structure of the public education system.

I also realized I can use my skills on the planet outside of the narrow and limited context of the individuals and tasks who were rejecting me.

As I release the need for others to authorize of me, my world expanded, because now I might go after those things in life that I was passionate about rather than simply trying to conform and satisfy others.

Success, for me, indicates doing what I love– teaching, reading, taking a trip, meeting and working with people from throughout the world, studying languages, and experiencing different cultures.

Ive since realized that I get to specify success for myself.

3. Start journaling.

Connecting and journaling with our real selves, and what actually brings us happiness, can make us value ourselves again in spite of any opposition and rejection that we experience from the world.

I was inspired by my experiences on the planet that were outside of my comfort zone and by the varied and rich cultures and experiences that were waiting out there. As I continued journaling, I also realized I d constantly been inspired by the possibility of mentor and helping others, but in a worldwide capacity.

Journaling helped me get back to my uniqueness as a person and was what really determined and motivated me. It helped me focus on what made me happy again and those things that I d actually like to achieve or do.

As a result, Ive had the opportunity to assist students with autism, to teach English to adults and trainees globally, and to write for a variety of locations abroad that did accept and value my work. I would never have explored these elements of myself if I had been accepted by those who were rejecting me. Which means actually, their rejections were true blessings in disguise.

It can also assist us reconnect with the things we used to like when we were younger– the passions we lost after going through years of school and attempting to do what we believed we needed to do in order to be effective in the eyes of society.

4. Support those who support you.

Now, I may not have as lots of friends as I once did, however those that I do have are a fundamental part of my circle and individuals that I can count on.

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Someone once informed me, “Now I know who the true followers are.” I feel that way about those who have proudly renowned my successes and have likewise been there for me during my darkest moments.

It wasnt easy for me to get rid of rejection and non-acceptance, and I still have problem with it sometimes. Nobody wishes to feel excluded or like a failure. However Ive recognized I can just stop working by societys terms if I accept them– and I do not.


We can reject rejection by supporting those who support us through both the great and the more challenging times in our lives. Why support those who are only there for you when life is great?

“Some people are going to decline you just because you shine too intense for them. Instead, I always desired to work in Europe or South America with people from different cultures, citizenships, and backgrounds. I desired to make a positive difference in a humanitarian way by working with individuals personally to implement change and improve their lives.

The difficult times made me recognize who really was on my side. The people who stuck with me and continued to believe in me supported me through both the success and the disappointments. There was an incredible difference between those individuals and others who no longer responded to calls or emails, except when I was “successful.”.

I hope youre lucky sufficient to have people in your life who really support you, even if its only one individual. If you dont, try to open yourself up to new people, and stop offering your energy to individuals who accept you conditionally or frequently disappoint you.

~ Wesley Snipes

I hope youre lucky adequate to have people in your life who truly support you, even if its only one individual. If you do not, attempt to open yourself up to brand-new people, and stop giving your energy to people who accept you conditionally or frequently disappoint you. Creating an encouraging circle starts with that initial step of making a little room.

Instead, Ive rejected the “box” other people attempted to impose on me, gotten outside my comfort zone, release the need for approval, began rediscovering what delights me, and moved my focus to those people who have actually always supported me, despite what Ive accomplished. And Im far happier for it.