This post has to do with a code of life. There isnt a single code, and everyone needs to pick their own reality. Ive been browsing for my fact in the face of lots of books and given that I havent founnd it anywhere I decided to compose it myself.
“There is absolutely nothing beyond yourself that can ever allow you to get much better, more powerful, richer, quicker, or smarter. Whatever is within. Whatever exists. Seek nothing beyond yourself.” ~ Miyamoto Musashi
What is the Limitless Life?
These words stuck to me throughout my life, and I saw limitless proof of their truthfulness. Things that I considered difficult, too uncomfortable, out of typical sense, somebody else simply did. I felt intolerable feelings around what these people did, however these feelings were intolerable to me, not to them.
I do not understand what the significance of life is. We tend to browse our entire lives, looking for The Answer, but in fact we are the ones that need to coin it.
If Im smart, I believed, I cant do things that make me look not smart; If Im capable, I cant do things that make me look incapable; if Im excellent, I cant do the incorrect thing, I cant make somebody upset, I cant snap, I cant slip up. Not truly boosters, are they?
I think that the individuals who taught me these ideas were trying to boost my self-confidence and my abilities and offer me a great running start in life. However, later on in my life, these boosters ended up being limits, or limits.
As a little young boy I was told I was a smart kid, a capable young boy, I could do things others couldnt, I was special, I did only great, I was exemplary. And I thought all this. I took this in as my own reality and began living it.
The answer I reached was that I desired to live a limitless life, to be totally free.
When I was young, my dad told me, “Son, all limits exist only in your head.”
But how? The first concern I required to answer was: What are my limits?
So the response to the huge question of what is limiting us is our desire for love.
Limitations may keep us with our families, however they also keep us unpleasant, keep us from doing the important things we wish to do that might distress our families. Limitations might make us add to society, however since of them we typically contribute much less than we could.
If we do the incorrect things we get penalized, we get disapproval, we get rejected and prevented, and if we do the best things, we get awards, appreciation, attention, assistance, and approval. In other words, if we play our cards right, we get love, and if we screw up we are deprived of love.
We are living in limits both for our inactiveness and actions. The response is punishment and benefit.
We spend our whole lives attempting to be rich, be famous, please everybody around us, do something extraordinary, be somebody remarkable, develop a masterpiece, add to the world; we want to matter, all in the name of love.
All the limits we have will be gone if we satisfy the requirement for love in some other method. And if you have read enough self-help books and listen to contemporary masters and leaders, you most likely have guessed by now that this love can not originate from beyond yourself. You can not control your life, you can not manage others, you can not manage reality. What you can manage is yourself and your own ideas.
Our desire is to live a life loaded with love, pleasure, and joy. But how can this take place when we are having a hard time each and every day to get a pinch of love by doing all the important things that are needed and taking care to not do something wrong?
When I hear the word “limits,” the first thing that concerns my mind is fear. I am afraid to do many things and to refrain from doing other things.
All we do is seek love. However no matter what we do, we never appear to get enough, we never appear to be enough. We do something great, the world offers us love; we do something bad, the world takes the love back. And no matter what we do, the love the world gives us will always be conditional.
In our existing society we are anticipated to go to school, get a degree, respect everyone, get a task, get married, have kids, listen to the news, vote, know about the worlds history, understand science, know many approximate facts, have friends and be social, and so on– you name it. Refraining from doing some of the requirements raises fear, and doing something beyond them does the exact same.
Every day there are thousands of things I shouldnt do, or I could mess up. I need to be many things and I need to prevent being so numerous things that it seems like continuously walking on a rope. And all I get is a round of applause at specific moments, and after that the battle goes on.
You get a marital relationship but do the wrong thing and you get a divorce. You get finest good friends but do the wrong thing, and the next thing you know youre not welcomed to the last celebration everyone is talking about. And if there is a condition, there is a limit.
Well, I can provide you a much better answer, however Ill begin with the most basic one Ive found for myself: Limits suffocate me.
You may state, “Maybe the limits arent a bad thing. If they are keeping the buddies and households together, if they are making you support society, why not deal with them?”
The response is rather simple in fact. We need to get the love from a more trustworthy source.
The concern is, is it enough if I love myself? Do not I require the love of others also?
Whatever you perform in life, no matter the number of people authorize of you, you will have twice as numerous that disapprove. But when you hear the approval of the first group of people, and you give approval to yourself, you no longer appreciate the numerous individuals that do not like you. This only validates that the love each people needs is the love we give ourselves.
And when we get approval and appreciation from others by accomplishing a big goal, what takes place within is that we give approval to ourselves, we give love to ourselves, and this makes us feel good. As you can see, everything we do is in fact to make our own love and acknowledgement. It was never ever about the others.
When we mess up something and get disapproval, lets believe about what takes place. What happens in our minds? We start to agree with the others, we provide ourselves displeasure. Whats more, we begin beating ourselves up more carefully than anyone else would ever do.
The code of life Ive reached to is the following:
Nothing in this world matters if you are not at hand. Be your buddy, be your own sibling or sis, be your own biggest fan. Give yourself unconditional and endless love and be prepared to live an endless life.
Love yourself if you get abundant, love yourself if you cant afford to even buy food. Love yourself when you prosper, like yourself when you stop working.
About Ferdi Nebiev
Ferdi is working as a supervisor of a group in an IT item company. His passion for innovation is matched just by his desire to explore his inner world. He is captivated by individualss endless ability to learn and grow. His dream is to totally free himself from his inner restrictions and live a life in flexibility and peace, and help others attain the exact same.
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We do something great, the world provides us love; we do something bad, the world takes the love back. And when we get approval and admiration from others by accomplishing a huge goal, what takes place inside is that we give approval to ourselves, we give love to ourselves, and this makes us feel good. Love yourself if you get rich, love yourself if you cant manage to even buy food. Love yourself when you prosper, love yourself when you fail. Offer yourself unlimited and unconditional love and be prepared to live an unlimited life.