The Most Common PTSD Myths and Symptoms, and How to Cope

While my family was proficient at making certain we had a roof over head, they were also proficient at making sure I did not disclose household tricks, kept up looks at all times, and were ultra-focused on image-management.

I disliked my favorite hobby and leisure activity of browsing. This felt so shocking– it felt so counter-intuitive. I had no reason to no longer wish to surf but suddenly I felt so gotten rid of from it.

In reality, I strove and vigilantly through yoga, breath-work, journaling, Reiki, training, treatment and so lots of other techniques to get to my reality. However, making this one option to be separated from my family– which I felt was the very best and only alternative at that point to maintain my well-being– seemed to open up Pandoras Box and no matter the number of tools I had, it seemed like nothing worked.

From the summertime of 2018 till January 2020, I didnt recognize myself.

Being diagnosed with PTSD didnt seem like a preconception; it in fact brought me back home to me. PTSD brought my soul back to life.

In waking life, strange and intrusive images pertained to me from no place, and while attempting to keep it entirely, I wondered if I was losing my mind and what would happen to me.

My mothers concept of coping was preventing, not speaking out, and disregarding hard household moments and me.

I constantly felt I understood myself well. And, I considered myself to be practical, practical, and down-to-earth. Furthermore, I d never ever been frightened to deal with any difficulty head-on, but this seemed to be a beast that would not stop.

He was. While I attempted to utilize my tools daily, I required somebody highly trained to notify me of what I was in fact going through and what to anticipate. I made an instant appointment with a regional psychologist and felt relieved that some responses might be around the corner.

With simply those few sentences, I felt my whole body relax. In that minute, I stopped buying into focusing only on all the excellent times of my youth and lastly faced freely the dysfunction that was there, too.

Despite asking for from my parents a number of times to see a family therapist, I was always met back with, “Why? Theres no reason to go.”

As my other half and I waited in the physicians office for the therapist to call my name, I felt curious and thrilled.

Unfortunately, when both sessions with that college therapist resulted in him asking me to speak to a teddy bear and punch it, I never ever went back.

I d worked so hard all my life to maintain the appearance and picture of having a perfect family that without even understanding it, I was doing severe damage to myself by not admitting what I d been through and seen.

Life was blah, dull, and I felt totally disconnected.

Maturing in a family with both moms and dads, my grandmas, and pets, individuals typically assumed we were the picture-perfect household. I took part in dance classes, sports, and we likewise had a lot of extended family events. We lived in a quite nice area, went to good schools, and both of my parents worked and were informed.

At the very same time, I discovered myself trying to get away from the consistent disorderly energy in my family by concealing out in my bed room while writing copious journal entries trying to make sense of the scariness and tricks.

Being raised in a stressful home seemed like a pressure-cooker that kept me on high-alert and walking around on eggshells.

Sleeping disorders became my new “buddy” and I felt agitated, apathetic, and numb.

In life, I was a go-getter, pursued my dreams, traveled the world, and had actually been working for myself for the previous seventeen years.

Since I was worried about a relationship I was in at the time, it wasnt till I was in my mid-twenties when I saw my next therapist. On event, I brought up my training, therefore that therapist administered Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), a typical strategy utilized with PTSD clients and individuals whove experienced injury. It was not plainly discussed why we were doing EMDR, and so the core problem wasnt actually dealt with and I left work with that therapist with no medical diagnosis.

They were.

Instantly, I was plagued with a daily bombardment of scary childhood and adult memories I had entirely forgotten. No matter what I did or how I coped, they painfully persisted.

Because I considered myself to be strong, I picked to speak up on her behalf, secure her, as well as concentrate on just the advantages that occurred in our household while suppressing all of the darkness that our household was focused around.

I was frequently afraid to go to bed as a kid– I knew I would wet it and that I d be mocked by my daddy the next morning for doing so.

I felt disengaged from life and from my soul.

Not having the ability to access the root-cause of what I believed may be an identity-crisis left me terror-stricken– specifically being a positive and confident person.

When I was eighteen, the first time I ever saw a therapist was. My college offered treatment as part of our tuition and I could not wait to go. Im unsure that I understood precisely what I wished to discuss back then, but I believe I was hoping the therapist would have a magic concern that would unleash a series of responses concerning my deep sensations, level of sensitivities, and difficult training.

I was clearly requesting support but was being denied the aid I felt I needed.

In 2018, after a series of ongoing events within my household, I chose estrangement. While I d been working in the psychological health industry for two years, I had no concept how estrangement would wreak havoc on my emotional well-being. I really was not well-prepared for taking such a destructive choice.

I was.

I didnt want to go outside, which was odd because Im a substantial nature-lover.

Family good friends and members would continuously point out to me that I would leap and flinch at any loud noise and in my teenagers till early twenties, people who knew me well told me I was protective, prepared to battle, and had a chip on my shoulder.

One day, after consistent interaction with my other half over my household estrangement and resulting psychological turmoil, my partner informed me, “I do not think Im equipped to help you anymore. I believe its time to see a therapist.”

The therapist carried out a full intake which left me feeling relieved and shocked– in all the years I d worked with countless therapists, I d never had an appropriate consumption! The consumption was extensive, and I was provided the opportunity to talk about my youth all the way until contemporary.

While I was so busy feeling the need to secure others, I didnt feel psychologically or physically safeguarded in my own household.

They were so excellent at encouraging us we were stable and typical that I overlooked my dads love of rage, extreme aggravation, silent-treatment, stonewalling, and excessive word-salad-speak. When he d provide a thorough and really good spanking, I likewise chose to look away.

As soon as I completed the consumption, the therapist stated, “You have PTSD. Youve experienced injury and abuse. I want you to see a professional.”

But, from a very young age, I saw and experienced frightening events and images no child ought to ever need to see and go through. While I normalized these ongoing unsuitable and terrible images and incidents, I had no idea what they were doing to my mental and psychological health.

Its been nearly six months because my medical diagnosis, and I can gratefully state that life has come back to my variation of “normal” and satisfying. Im back on my surfboard and am curious and joyful about life once again. The invasive images have stopped and Im sleeping better.

“The dark night of the soul is a journey into light, a journey from your darkness into the strength and hidden resources of your soul.” ~ Caroline Myss

Debunking Myths

Reality: About 10 percent of ladies will experience PTSD in their life time and ladies are two times as most likely to establish PTSD to guys. In between 3 and 15 percent of women whove had an injury develop PTSD and between 1-6 percent of boys whove experienced some kind of trauma develop PTSD.

Reality: One event can be enough to induce PTSD.

Myth # 4: PTSD just happens due to repeating events.

Myth # 2 PTSD is something that just occurs to guys.

Fact: Research shows that people and kids whove never ever experienced battle can have PTSD. People can experience PTSD if theyve been in a mishap, experienced any form of abuse and dysfunction, or even through the course of grieving the death of a liked one.

Myth # 6: Youre not normal and can not have a satisfying life if you have PTSD.

In my case, it took me twenty years, many therapists, mental health professionals, coaches and therapists prior to I was lastly formally identified with PTSD this year.

Fact: You are typical. If you have PTSD, youre still entire and total even. And, it is possible that you can have a lot more fulfilling, tranquil, and connected life as soon as receiving such a diagnosis because you will learn how to handle and lessen signs while practicing being more conscious, still, and deeply engaged in your life.

Misconception # 1: PTSD only occurs to war veterans.

Reality: Sometimes undiagnosed PTSD is the extremely thing that is avoiding you from moving on your life plans and objectives due to the fact that without you knowing it, the signs are preventing you from confidence, clarity, and focus. It is absolutely possible to live the life you desire even if you have PTSD.

Misconception # 3 Your therapist or doctor will diagnose you directly away.

Reality: PTSD is frequently ignored and typically goes undetected. One of the reasons this takes place is due to the fact that an individual may not experience the PTSD symptoms immediately; in fact, in some cases it isnt until years later that an individual starts to experience symptoms related to a traumatic event. Additionally, therapists need that a patient experience all of the recorded symptoms of PTSD or at least one the symptoms for one straight month.

There are many myths surrounding the topic of PTSD that I feel are necessary to debunk.

If you have PTSD, misconception # 5 You can not operate or live the life of your dreams.

Common Symptoms

People-pleasing and proving
Over-explaining, justifying, over-apologizing
Feeling numb, detached, apathetic
Dissociation blacking out
Brain fog– blending words like stating “the other day” rather of tomorrow
When genuinely mattered and were pleasurable to you, reduced interest in things that
Inability to keep in mind injury or have actually obstructed it
A flooding of challenging memories or circumstances throughout your waking day
Sleeping disorders or continuous disrupted sleep
Challenging focusing

Walking around defensively. Waiting for somebody to shout, attack, or injure you. Walking on eggshells and hyper-vigilance.
Hyper-arousal. Flinching and leaping at the noise of a door slamming, loud noises, or family or buddies yelling and talking loudly.
Potentially upset when you hear another chew loudly, swallow or gulp, and even the smell of cigarettes or another compound may put you on edge and make you irritable.
If someone stands too close to you in the supermarket or on the street, feeling claustrophobic or irritated.
May not be able to endure crowds or a great deal of individuals.
Ruminating, having obsessive ideas or invasive ideas that frighten you. Abrupt invasive images while awake that are random, appear to go and make no sense against your core values
Food digestion concerns and food allergies
Over-working and perfectionism

The suggestions listed below are a little “toolkit” I put together with my therapist, as well as substantial research study I carried out. While I have found these suggestions have helped me with my PTSD, this is not a “one-size-fits-all” package.

Tips for Coping with PTSD.

1. Directed meditation and guided visualization.

With PTSD, its essential to offer the brain a break, to calm down your adrenals and stop trauma and anxiety responses. Favorable guided visualization helps in reducing stress and has you envision favorable and effective situations while also having you concentrate on the breath.

2. Reiki, massage and acupuncture (if you do not have a phobia with needles).

If touch triggers you, this may not be the coping approach for you. For me, these methods showed me I was safe to be touched and were very peaceful.

3. Stress-reducing foods.

Research studies have revealed that consuming blueberries, dairy, non-processed cheese, green veggies, almonds and drinking chamomile tea have a considerable reduction in PTSD signs while brining on rather immediate calm.

4. Animal treatment.

Cuddling your feline, listening to their purrs for example, have revealed some methods to soothe the nerves and assist relieve the PTSD signs.

5. Mantras and meditation.

Research reveals that saying or shouting a mantra throughout meditation have actually been one of the most helpful ways to minimize PTSD signs.

6. Practicing gentleness.

Consciously and deliberately consume, drink, talk, drive, shower, brush your teeth, and all other daily activities gently. When practicing gentleness, you respond versus respond and are less vulnerable to injury and anxiety actions.

7. Preventing caffeine and alcohol.

Research studies reveal alcohol and caffeine trigger headaches, invasive images, and accelerate the central nerve system.

8. Listening to binaural beats.

My hope in sharing my individual story of having PTSD is that you will reframe your PTSD experience by seeing simply how durable and bold you really are. Rather of believing PTSD is a devastating condition, I hope you can view it as something that challenges you to find your fact and wakes you up to what matters most in your life so you can live the life of your dreams and purpose.

The tones and beats of binaural beats have actually been revealed to substantially assist with better and much deeper sleep, reduce stress and anxiety, help boost self-confidence, and motivate relaxation.

Laurie Santos is a Certified Co-Creative and Co-Active Life Coach of seventeen years. Shes likewise a Reiki Master, has a Master of Science in Justice and a Bachelor of Science in Anthropology. Considering that 2007, Lauries been an expat having resided in Africa, The Middle East, and Europe. You can sign up for her Soul Supplements newsletter at or take a look at her weekly Soul Session at Instagram at Life Coach Laurie.

About Laurie Santos.

On celebration, I brought up my childhood, and so that therapist administered Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), a typical technique used with PTSD patients and people whove experienced trauma. As soon as I completed the intake, the therapist stated, “You have PTSD. Reality: PTSD is commonly ignored and often goes undiscovered. One of the factors this happens is because a person might not experience the PTSD signs straight away; in truth, sometimes it isnt up until years later on that an individual starts to experience signs related to a terrible event. Furthermore, therapists require that a patient experience all of the recorded symptoms of PTSD or at least one the symptoms for one straight month.

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